Randy McDonald links to a post by Eugene Volokh in which the latter raises a touchy question, and tries to answer it with the help of some survey evidence: is it really a myth that gays and lesbians try to "recruit" heterosexuals into experimenting with homosexuality?
I'll be perfectly frank and say that I don't see the need for all the buildup on his part to address the question, other than as political cover, as the answer is quite clearly yes, at least for gay men, and as a long-time dweller in two megacities which are gay meccas, I know this from first-hand experience. If you are young, male, in decent physical shape, not outright ugly and enjoy going out, it's pretty much impossible for you to avoid being hit on occasionally by gay men on the make, many of whom don't easily take "no" for an answer, and for whom the disclosure of your exclusive heterosexuality actually seems to act as an aphrodisiac of sorts, the ultimate challenge to their skills as seducers. I say all this not to defame gay men, but the fact is that in these respects they're no better or worse than their equally pushy straight counterparts for whom the "conquest" of a lesbian serves as a powerful assertion of their manhood.
Gay men aren't devilish conspirators with a secret political "agenda" to lure all straight men away from the path of matrimonial bliss, but they are given to the same mix of wishful thinking and aggressiveness which plagues men who are convinced that every beauty they see is secretly in love with them (or at least would be if only they had a chance to talk to her), and the fantasy of being that guy who's so good-looking that the hetero stud crosses to play for the other team is common enough that it supports a vigorous market in pornography and fiction which plays to that theme.
In summary, yes, just like their straight counterparts, gay men do "recruit", or at least try to - not all of them, not even most of them, but enough that I've personally been either the target of such advances or a first-hand witness on literally more than a score of occasions. There is one way in which the gay and straight "recruitment" scenarios differ, however, and it's not to the benefit of straight men: at least with gay "recruitment" the target of unwanted attention is often physically well equipped to defend himself from a creep who doesn't understand the word "no."
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