Speaking from my own experience as a half Asian male customer, I can say that part of the appeal of strip clubs is the chance to have very attractive blond women come up to me and persistently ask for dances. I have accepted their offers many times, figuring that it costs the same to get a dance from a blond as from a brunette or a minority, so I might as well get the "best" ones. I imagine that for Asian-American men who can not normally get dates with blondes, strip clubs are places where they can fulfill their fantasies. Two times, I met Hawaiian strippers who were really fine, but I turned them down for tall, thin blondes. Later I regretted it, and I realized I was a hypocrite--if we Asian-American men want Asian-American women to consider us attractive, then we have to do the same thing for them.
Strip clubs are places to live out your fantasies. For many minority men, this revolves around tall, thin blond women. Maybe this blond obsession is caused by the movies and television. What is beautiful, anyway? I remember reading in elementary school that beauty was culturally defined. My textbook had the pictures of a group of women who were considered beautiful in other cultures. I did not find them beautiful, which was interesting. If beauty can vary across cultures, then who can say what beauty is? "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," wrote Shakespeare.
Clearly, there is a great deal of diversity around the world in definitions of beauty. For me, this tended to suggest that there was no absolute standard for it. In fact, I would have inferred that a culture's standard of beauty not only changes, but can be deliberately, consciously changed. I thought that perhaps that is what we need to do with the standard of beauty in the U.S. to include minorities on an equal basis, as well as the disabled, strong women, etc.
Strip clubs allow minority men to live out their blond fantasies. But in doing so, do they perpetuate racist attitudes about beauty? Strip clubs enforce the idea that white is the most beautiful. (They also enforce the idea that blond is better than brunette--something that is often complained about by brunette strippers.) In buying into this idea, are we Asian-American men ruining our own chances in the long run, not to mention being hypocrites? In the 1960's, black people said, "Black is beautiful." Now we need to say, "Yellow is beautiful," or, "Asian is beautiful." If we really believe it, then we Asian-American men must also choose Asian-American women over white women--even blondes. (I realize this applies to myself.) Only then will we be in a position to ask Asian-American women to choose us over white men.
It is true enough that many men of all races have been programmed to think "blond is best", but how exactly does one go about ridding oneself of such a preference, even if one is of a mind to? This writer seems to think that the "black is beautiful" movement was a great success, but if so, why are half-white actresses like Halle Berry still considered the epitome of "black" beauty? Has he seen the typical MTV rap video lately? You won't see any Alex Wek lookalikes on those things, black solidarity rhetoric notwithstanding. Besides, if one accepts that one has a duty to date women of one's own race or of more advanced years, why not also agree to take up the burden of seeing that unattractive or overweight women get their "fair" share of love while one's at it?
Frankly, I don't see that conscious efforts at changing one's taste in women have any real prospect of success, any more than one can consciously "choose" to become gay or straight once one's preferences have been set, and while it may pain many men of Asian extraction that "their" women are going out with white men - a complaint they share in common with very many black women inflamed that "their" men are being "taken" by white females - I don't even agree with the premise that a certain set of women "belongs" to anyone, let alone that one should be in any position "to ask Asian-American women to choose [one] over white men"; that is in itself a form of racism, as it assumes that one ought to prefer potential partners with the same skin color as oneself.
Perhaps in the long run it might be possible, with a concerted effort, to shift the standards of what most people find beautiful, but if such a campaign does meet with success, it will be through its influence on the younger generations whose sexual preferences aren't yet cast in stone, not on fully grown men who already know what they like. Asking adults with set tastes to patronize strippers they aren't attracted to in the name of racial solidarity seems to me to be nothing more than foolishness; if you're going to throw your money away on a stripper, why not at least have a good time doing so? The desire to be seen to have the "right" racial consciousness seems so strong nowadays that a man can more readily express his exclusive desire for other men than admit that he has a particular fixation on women of another race, a state of affairs I find exceedingly strange.